You’ve tried traditional talk therapy before and want something different.

I offer somatic and experiential therapy.

I’m an active therapist, rather than a passive therapist.

I may interrupt you, challenge you, offer you a different perspective, teach you skills, provide you education, and ask you to try other ways of thinking or relating.

Sometimes, I curse and laugh.

Because therapy is so individualized and I’m imperfect, I’m receptive to feedback, strive to be flexible, apologize when I make a mistake, and repair when disagreements and/or ruptures occur.

I also regularly check in with you to see if we are working toward your goals.

I believe the best therapy for you is the one we create together, taking into account your preferences, personality, culture, as well as my skill, experience, and variety of therapeutic techniques.

My job is to help you face conflicts so you can better understand yourself, feel more free and less stuck, and integrate past wounds that keep you stuck.

Therapy is a relationship where we’ll work together to achieve your goals.

My job is not to tell you what to do or “fix” you.

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A session may include:

• Noticing and interrupting negative self-talk/thoughts/beliefs/stories/narratives

• Provide you education on what may be occurring

• Offer you my observations around patterns and dynamics

• Challenging you at times with compassion and curiosity

• Inquiring about your desires, values, and needs

• Continued challenges, barriers, difficulties

• Learning self management skills

• Facilitating underlying emotions

• Regulating anxiety

• Practicing slowing down and curiosity of your internal world

• Developing more acceptance and compassion

• Exploring your relationships outside of session.

• And more

Please be open to feedback and change if you want your life to be different. I’ll also be open to learning, flexible, and adaptive.

Life changing therapy is difficult, uncomfortable, slow, and at times, painful.

Change often happens at the intersection of discomfort, patience, and repetition.

While healing work is rarely comfortable and easy, I promise to hold you with compassion, respect, and kindness.

• Beginning & Check In

  • 5-10 minutes

  • Saying hello, reviewing past 1-2 weeks.

  • Easing into the discomfort.

  • Updates and logistical items.

• Middle & The Work

  • 40-50 minutes

  • Goal consensus: Focusing on what you want to work on.

• Ending & Review

  • 5-10 minutes

  • Saying goodbye and summarizing.

  • Feedback

  • Compartmentalizing, getting ready for the rest of the day, resourcing, grounding yourself.

  • Assigning optional relational homework.

WE MIGHT BE A GOOD FIT IF YOU VALUE:

Being challenged and interrupted at times

• Rather than venting every session and have me nod in silence; I believe there is a limit to how much endless validation can help you grow

Are active in therapy

• Come in with things to talk about, practice skills/tools outside session, open to trying new things

Direct communication and soliciting feedback

• Therapy is most helpful when you communicate with me your disagreements, your requests/wants, and when you give me feedback on what is and isn’t helpful. I’ll do the same.

Dialectic or balance

• I try to balance things in therapy: balancing validation with challenge, balancing insight with learning skills, listening with interrupting, and acceptance with change

Other methods outside of talk therapy

• Such as mindfulness, experiential therapy, psychodrama, somatic therapy

The healing power of relationships

• Most people bring their patterns/dynamics into the therapeutic relationship. If you tend to avoid conflict outside of therapy, you’ll most likely avoid tension and disagreement with your therapist.

• We will use our therapeutic relationship as a template for learning new healthy experiences and opportunities for repair and growth

Want to learn how to become your own therapist long term

• My goal is for you to gain insight and understanding into why you do what you do, interrupt unhelpful cycles of sabotage, and learn skills/tools to manage future conflicts

WE MIGHT NOT BE A GOOD FIT IF YOU:

Expect perfection

• I’m not perfect, will make mistakes, and will communicate directly when this occurs toward resolution

Expect me to do the bulk of the work

• Examples: Solve your problems, tell you what to do, consistently have to ask you what you want to work on in session, am more curious about you than you are of yourself

Cancel sessions often

• Therapy works best with consistency

Don’t take accountability

• Confronting our shadows require honesty about our humanity and limitations

Don’t liked being challenged

• Of course, I will be gentle and compassionate, but in my experienee, endless validation is not going to be helpful long term

Demand instant change within 3-4 sessions

• While relief can come in a few sessions, long term change requires compassion, practice, patience, and repetition

Want to get rid of all your feelings and thoughts

• Pain is inevitable in life

• My goal is for you to learn to accept and manage life stressors, pain, and grief with more compassion, nuance, and acceptance.

• If we get rid of painful feelings and thoughts, we also then will have a difficult time accessing joy, love, and peace. What we resist persists.

• Moreover, there are things in life that cannot be forgotten, forgiven, or rid of such as the loss of a loved one or traumatic experiences

Aren’t interested in exploring your past, childhood, or upbringing

• There are other therapists who focus only on the present moment with an emphasis on skill building and generating quick solutions that may be a better fit (CBT, DBT, ACT)

Core components of AEDP include:

• Practicing curiousity

• Slowing down when you rush

• Asking you to go inside of your body

• Feeling your emotions

• Healing past wounds through processing unreleased experiences/memories rather than using defensive tactics (distraction, numbing, intellectualization, internalization, dissociation, etc.) that keep you stuck

The goal is to undo aloneness (self reliance) and move toward an authentic and stronger sense of Self while connecting with others.

Click here to learn more about AEDP.

We have many parts inside of us. Some parts fight with one another keeping us “stuck”.

This can show up as sabotage, trauma repetition, exhaustion, addictive tendencies, judgement, criticism, guilt, anxiety, and shame.

I’ll help you understand why you do what you do and learn practical skills you can use when overwhelmed.

The goal of IFS to integrate all these fractured parts so you can access more of your true Self which includes:

• Self love

• Self acceptance

• Self worth

• Self confidence

• Self esteem

Click here to learn more about IFS.

I’ll inquire about your relationships and how this impacts how you see your yourself, trust others, and relate to intimacy.

This can show up as avoidance, distraction, fear, anxiety, shame, guilt, etc.

My job is to gently point these patterns out and provide you new ways of relating so you can learn:

• Healthy boundaries (how to say no without guilt & setting limits)

• Assertive communication (ask for what you need)

• Ways to express your emotions (feeling emotions rather than dealing with thoughts)

Click here to learn more about EFT.

TIF focuses on co-creating a therapeutic space based on safety, choice, trust, collaboration, respect for diversity, and empowerment.

You are in control of our sessions.

The goal is for you to understand the nuances of trauma, pathways toward healing, how to manage triggers and moments of dysregulation, increase flexibility, be more comfortable with uncertainty, feel more embodied and safe, step into your power, instill hope, and create a life worth living.

Click here to learn more about TIFC.

Individual therapy is one part toward healing.

There must be larger, systemic changes in our families, relationships, communities, society, and world.

Decolonizing therapy means I am constantly unlearning, learning, and relearning.

This can show up in session as

• Inquiring about how systemic issues like racism, sexism, classism, transphobia, ageism, etc. impacts your life

• Practicing curiosity

• Understanding your unique context and experiences through historical, political, familial, and generational legacies

• Collective healing vs. individualism/self-reliance

• Challenging incomplete stories/narratives/beliefs with more complete beliefs

• Centering the healing power of relationships, community, and cultural heritage

• Encouraging you to take action outside of session as appropriate toward personal values

• Beyond Eurocentric models of learning and being

• Somatic and mind/body ways of healing

• Showing up as my authentic and congruent Self (versus as a neutral/blank slate)

• The wounded healer as guide

• lf disclosing and sharing with you my personal experiences if I feel it would benefit you

• Doing my own work by attending my own personal therapy and consultation

Click here to read more Decolonizing Therapy.

Learn why you do what you, face the truth with more courage, and learn to interrupt patterns of self sabotage and getting in your own way.

Psychodynamic therapy helps clients gain insight, and increase self awareness.

This therapy approach focuses on getting into the root of issues rather than the surface.

Common issues psychodynamic therapy can help you with:

• Identifying reoccurring patterns and dynamics that are keeping you stuck

• Understand how your past shapes your present reality

• Becoming conscious of defense mechanisms/protective strategies and reframing them

• Having new and corrective emotional experiences

• Increasing integration and cohesion of your sense of Self

• Integrating split off parts of your personality

As a consumer of therapy, it is your responsibility to do your due diligence and research what types of treatment you want to engage in.

A list of therapeutic modalities/approaches:

• Psychological Treatments

• Zen Care

• Trauma Treatment Models